There are tons & hundreds of ways for dealing with break-up, or getting your ex back. Initially, my intention was to get him back at all cause by pleading & begging which made me sound so desperate & depressing. It indicates a true fact that I had come off as a low-valued woman in his eyes for doing all those silly things. Besides, it annoys him even more, & making him to pull a distance away from me. Truly, but sadly. I know how it feels when someone keeps pestering me; it's really annoying by bombarding someone with depressing texts... Sometimes, we tend to forget to put ourselves into someone else's shoes. Since pleading & begging had failed to make him come back to me, I began to spend time & money on certain e-books written by love-experts. I come across a method; "No-contact" period. During these 30 days of "No Contact Period", you're not supposed to text or even call your ex, & finding time to improve yourself as well.
It has been almost a week now since I last contacted my ex. We were kinda like friends now after the break-up, but he has been very cold towards me for the past few months. In fact, I can understand why, & the reasons behind his behaviour due to my immaturity & being annoying. After spending time reading self-improvement books that I bought few years ago, & doing things I'm passionate about, I began to find myself back again while realizing how happy I am now & free from argument.
The best way to deal with break-up isn't just getting busy for the sake of it. What it backfires you is that you will automatically think of him during your free-time instead. I must say that being productive is so much better than getting yourself busy. Go learn new things, attend activities, sign up for classes, or even picking up your long-lost hobby. I'm passionate about art, & whenever I started drawing, I will think less negatively, because my focus isn't my thought now, but the object that's placed right in from me. You don't need be to artistic to do so; you can try new things such as cooking, hiking, etc. :) I promise you, you'll be surprised just how much happier you can be. Such new habit will eventually be replaced with the new one... & you will slowly kick off the habit of looking at phone & hoping that he will text you again. Or even worst, sending texts that he hates.
Let's face the fact that the relationship is already over, & time will take its way to heal your wound gradually. Learn to love yourself again, & be a better & happier person. Isn't that what attracts the guys the most? You will not only feel better, but realizing that maybe he isn't the right one for you afterall (be it his anger-problem), or the way he treated you before (like verbally-abusing you to berate your self esteem).
I believe so that this journey will benefit me with a positive outcome.
For those who are going through a heartache, I wish you all well. :)
